However, with the development of separate consciousness, a new problem can occur. While we spoke in the last post about the problem of not leaving Eden, this is the problem of not being able to return to Eden at all –that is, remaining isolated, remaining imprisoned in a separate mind.
One way this can happen is that eating the fruit -- ingesting intentionality and agency --can create an ambition that is limitless. This person is reluctant to return to Eden, either to be intimate or to simply rest his body and mind. The Sabbath can be viewed this way: a necessary return to a state of bliss to relax from the cares of being separate in the world. Not to find a metaphorical Sabbath is to create an unhealthy isolation.
A parenting style can contribute to this situation – too much overscheduling and too much emphasis on achievement without helping the child articulate his or her genuine interests. This child can become a very driven adult but yet paradoxically not have genuine desire. This person may “overwork” and “underplay” but with no real sense of satisfaction or achievement. She or he is moving too fast and forgets what is meaningful. In therapy, we can the patient slow down and remember.